Perfect Christmas gift ideas

Since Christmas is near, I decided to dedicate this article to Christmas gift ideas. I know there is still about a month before it’s actually Christmas, but you do not want to buy your presents at the last moment because the perfect gift may then already be sold out…

Plan of action for buying the perfect Christmas gifts

  • The first thing you do to get great Christmas gift ideas, is think about who you’re going to buy the Christmas gift for. Seeing as we’re not all the same and we may not like the same things, this is very important.
  • plan-of-action-for-buying-the-perfect-christmas-giftsA good way to see what someone might like is by observing the person. For example, if Sally loves reading and is always talking about how much she loves her Kindle, you could get her an e-book. This might be the perfect Christmas gift for her. Alternatively, maybe Harry is a sports fanatic, then, depending on the sport he loves, you can get him a sporting item.
  • When you have thought about the kind of thing that this specific person might like, then you can filter further in that category to pick a specific Christmas gift. It is not that difficult to pick something if you have observed the person. That is why I advise you to start planning your Christmas shopping early.

Christmas gifts for book lovers

christmas-gifts-for-book-loversSince I gave an example about a woman who loves to read, it is only fitting to start with Christmas gift ideas for book lovers. There are many books out there, so how do you find the right book? An easy way to find a good book for someone who reads from a kindle, for example, would be to filter on bestselling kindle edition books.
A few examples are:

Technology as a Christmas present

Since it is logical that not everyone likes reading, let’s explore some other Christmas gift ideas. Nowadays there are many advances in technology. This makes electronics an awesome Christmas gift idea. Depending on what you hear your friends or family talking about, you can choose from different categories in electronics. In my opinion, you can’t go wrong with a good speaker, because most of us love digital entertainment. Whether it’s movies, music or games, we like to entertain ourselves and others. Why not crank up the technology-as-a-christmas-presentvolume then with one of the following (smart) items:

If the person you want to surprise with the perfect Christmas gift likes new advances in mobile phones, you may want to choose from one of the following popular phones or phone accessories:

Photography Christmas gifts

Another hot Christmas gift idea is to give someone a camera. Photography is becoming more and more popular, so you can easily surprise someone who like to appreciate all the beauty around him/her with one of these photography Christmas gifts:

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Video games or video game accessories as the perfect Christmas gifts

Back in the day people thought that video games were only for kids. Nowadays we see a different trend. Young and old all play video games together. Why don’t you surprise someone special with a video game or video game accessory as the perfect Christmas gift? I would advise you to get one of these:

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Or how about a controller? For playing games with your crew, these are always handy:

perfect-christmas-giftsObviously, there are many more Christmas gift ideas, but I think that with these examples you have a pretty good idea what you can surprise your loved ones with.

Check out the links and give your friends, family and loved ones the perfect Christmas gifts!

The social acceptance of the LGBT community in Suriname

A good friend of mine asked me to write about a subject with a bigger social impact. She gave me some examples and I decided to write about the social acceptance of the LGBT community in Suriname. Since I don’t have much information on this subject, I did some research.

LGBT in Suriname accepted or not?

Most people know that the LGBT community in Suriname is growing each year, because more and more people are cominglgbt-in-suriname-accepted-or-not “out of the closet”. I think that this is proof that more people are becoming open minded about this.

Yet, as I read in an article about the church’s opinion there is still a large group that does not accept the LGBT community in Suriname. This is understandable, in my opinion, because the church teaches that a woman is made for a man and there are no variations on the rule. So obviously, they have a problem with male-male or female-female relationships.

Varying opinions

The coming out week in Suriname was held in October this year. In an interview, they asked some people if they consider LGBT rights as human rights. The opinions varied from “yeah, I guess so” to “well, they are people but they do not have the same rights as ‘normal people’” and even “hell no, that’s just not right”.

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I say, everyone is entitled to have an opinion. I personally think we should all just respect each other. Whether we’re straight, gay, bisexual or anything else. If you don’t like a certain group, that’s fine. Then stay out of their way as they will most likely stay out of yours too. We’re all people and we need to stop the hate in the world if we want a better future for our children and if we’re lucky, we may just live to see the day when the world is a better place.

What if your partner doesn’t put as much effort into the relationship as you do or you want different things?

I was watching the TV show “Friends”. In one of the episodes Phoebe and Mike broke up because Mike never wanted to get married again and Phoebe did want a marriage someday. I started thinking: it often happens that people who are in a relationship sometimes don’t want the same things. At the same time, even if they do want the same things, the effort is often not the same.

What do you do when your partner doesn’t put as much effort into the relationship as you do?

This is a good question, if you ask me. Some people would say that if you put more effort into your relationship than your partner, you should split up. Or that you should make your partner jealous so he/she feels how much their life would suck without you in it. Obviously, this is the negative approach. A more optimistic or hopeful approach would be to think that maybe your partner isn’t as good at showing his/her feelings as you are. Perhaps your partner loves you even more than you love him/her, but you can just show it better. In my opinion, that’s a lame excuse.

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It doesn’t take much to show a person that you care about him/her. If you can’t write poetry or you don’t have the money to spoil your significant other, you could, for example:

  • Go to his/her workplace or home and just surprise him/her;
  • Alternatively, you pick a flower from your (neighbor’s) garden and you bring it to him/her;
  • Maybe you just plan a romantic dinner with candlelight or a movie night for the two of you so you can just be close to each other.

People often think that it’s the big things that matter, when in fact the little things make a big difference.

there-is-no-such-thing-as-the-right-momentIf you’re waiting for the right moment to do something, let me tell you something: there is no such thing as the right moment. Not to be negative, but who says you’ll even be alive tomorrow? Do the little things. Show your partner every day that you love him/her. This could be as simple as writing a text message saying “good morning beautiful” or “you are the light of my day”. If you don’t know what to write/say, Google “romantic stuff to say to your significant other. Trust me, you’ll find a lot of examples.

Don’t wait for the right moment, the right amount of money or the right anything. Show how you feel now. Don’t just say “I love you” but truly let the person feel that you mean it!

What if the effort is there but you want different things?

This question is what actually got me started with this blog, so of course I should also address it. If you want different things, I think there are three options:what-if-the-effort-is-there-but-you-want-different-things

  • Take it as it is and see if one of the partners eventually changes his/her mind;
  • Talk about it and try to see where you can compromise;
  • Accept that it will never change and break up.

I can’t tell you which of these is the best alternative for your relationship, because every situation is different. However, I think communication is very important and if you really love each other, you might be able to reach a compromise.

The cycle of life and the system we follow

I was recently driving home from work and there was a lot of traffic. Out of boredom, I turned my head to the side of the road. There, I saw a primary school. Then, I looked to the other side of the road and saw a graveyard. I drove a little further and saw a church. Then I got to thinking about the cycle of life and “the system”.

The cycle

It is all very simple, actually. We are born, we go to school, we work, we do all the things “the system” wants us to do and then we die. This may seem a little extreme, because in the meantime, a lot can happen, but essentially this is the pattern we all follow.

The system

the-system-we-followWhen we are babies and toddlers, we have many unique ideas. As a baby, we can’t express these, because we can’t talk (well) yet. As a toddler, we express (almost) every thought but are often not taken seriously. Then the programming starts and we stop expressing our thoughts and feelings because we adjust to the system. We are taught how to eat “correctly”, how to address older people, etcetera. This all falls under “good manners” and “respect”. But often, our elders are confusing us, without even knowing they are doing this.

Take a student for example. We are all taught to fight for our rights and not to let ourselves get pushed around. Yet, if the teacher says the answer to a difficult mathematical problem is zero for example and we can see that this is wrong, the teacher might get angry at us for correcting him/her. Granted, not all teachers are like that. However, there are also other times when “respect” is the reason why we do not come up for our rights. We are programmed to respect elders, which is essentially not a bad thing. Nevertheless, when this “respect” comes in the way of our rights, we do have a problem, in my opinion.

Programmed

If you look at it, every person and every animal is programmed to think and behave in a certain way that is natural to us. Take an animal and its young for example. When there is danger near the cub, the mother (and sometimes father as well) will get rid of the threat to protect her young.

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The programming in humans does not differ that much from that in animals, because from the time we are young we see what happens around us and adjust to what seems normal. Many women who are born in a western society might get chills (in a bad way) if they were asked to live a life of polygyny (a man marrying multiple women). This is actually very normal in some countries. The even stranger version of this kind of lifestyle is polyandry, where a woman may marry multiple men.

It actually doesn’t even matter how we are programmed, the fact of the matter is, we all are.

My thoughts

my-thoughts-the-system-programmed-conspiracy-theoryWhether we like it or not, we are born into a system that teaches us how to think and behave. Yet, we all have free will, which means that we can decide to get out of that lifestyle and choose a different path. As we have seen, there is a cycle of life. So whichever path we choose for ourselves, at some point we will all just go through the motions and die.

Live your life how you think will make you the happiest and if you want to get out of the system you were born in take the step and do so. Life is too short to live it the way someone else wants you to.