Why you shouldn’t hate your ex

I really hate my exI was just watching this movie “I really hate my ex”. At some point in the movie the question arises: “What about your ex are you thankful for?” This got me to thinking. One thing about my ex that I’m thankful for is that he taught me how to love unconditionally.

The relationship was failing big time, but I didn’t give up on him. I gave him the choice… I let him decide when enough was enough. And yes, I hated him for it for a while, but I don’t anymore. I’m actually thankful that he agreed to me letting him go, giving up on him. It freed me up inside. Now I don’t go to bed with doubts, heartaches and anger.

So whatever the reason was for your relationship breaking up, there’s always a silver lining. It’s not just a thing they say. It will hurt at first but after a while, if nothing else, he/she will have taught you how to survive heartache. Sometimes it will feel like you will never love/trust again. But if the right person comes along and you willingly or “accidentally” let this new person in, you will see that the previous break-up was good for something. Because it made you ready for your new relationship.

Always a silver lining

A tip: No matter what happened in your last relationship, don’t take it out on the new person. We often have the tendency to do this and take issues from the past out on our new partner. This is a bad thing to do though, because the new person may not deserve this. Especially if he/she is the right one for you. The worst thing that can happen is that you lose a potential great partner, because that person lost patience with you for taking stuff from your past out on them…

I read this once:

“Sing as if no one is listening
Dance as if no one is watching
Love as if you’ve never been hurt.”

Don't worry about others

Live by those rules and you will probably have a happy life.

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